We live in troubled times. Unemployment, gang violence, shrinking investments, violent protests, food prices, drugs, school shootings, and many other issues are only symptoms of the serious problems hidden under the veneer of political double-speak and personal agendas. It is easy to understand why so many are cynical and discouraged.
Frustration aside, we cannot afford the luxury of surrender. We must fight harder than ever for future generations. The best answers will not be discovered in increased spending or more police with bigger weapons; it will not be found in new laws or the right politicians. No, the most important question to be answered is “Who are we?” The real battle being waged is over our underlying values and principles. What kind of people do we want to be?
While there is a compelling need for ordinary citizens to engage in the social, moral and economic discussions of our day, it is important that we do not trade who we are for what we want. Too often, conversation degrades to kindergarten level as politicians and average citizens begin name calling and “gotchas.” This kind of rhetoric is destructive in numerous ways: 1) It challenges and diminishes the respect we should have for one another. 2) It reduces our own credibility and reputation. 3) It is a poor model for our children who are learning how to engage their world. 4) It strains our ability to work together toward much needed solutions. 5) It causes us to miss real issues.
To positively affect our world, we must learn to stay on topic. We must discuss the “what” (the issue) and not so much about the “who” (the person.) We must form and clearly articulate the “Why’s” and the “How’s.”: 1) Why is this an important issue? 2) Why is my proposal a good one? 3) How will this plan work? 4) How much will it cost? 5) How much will it save? 6) How will this benefit all interested parties—not just the special interests? 7) How will our decision be viewed by the next generation?
While name calling and personal attacks require less effort than substantive arguments, it also diminishes who we are. So, think twice before forwarding that humorous email and find a more thoughtful way to engage the real issues.